I remember a feisty little girl, with a big grin, sparkling eyes, and blonde-brown curls. So much positive potential! She experienced some rough patches as she was growing up, and made some poor choices as a teen. This morning I read in the paper that she killed her boyfriend, and is being held for murder. Am pretty sure domestic violence had a part in it, and probably drugs. I am sad. I talk with women each day who have experienced or are experiencing domestic violence, and their stories are difficult. But I knew this one as a toddler . . .
When I give a training or talk on domestic violence or sexual violence, I encourage people to report such violence when they see or hear it. (In the United States, dial 911.) Often people hesitate, because they don’t want to “cause trouble” for the couple or family. Remember, the abuser is already causing trouble for the other person and/or the family. What you will actually be doing when you report is saving someone’s life, whether it is the survivor or the children or the abuser. Domestic violence destroys lives, sometimes literally. If a survivor sees no way out, if the legal system fails them, if they can find no way to protect themselves and/or their children, they may kill the abuser.
Please — if you see something, SAY SOMETHING!